|Genre||Novel (400 pp.)|
|Keywords||Adolescence, Aging, Aging, Body Self-Image, Caregivers, Children, Chronic Illness/Chronic Disease, Communication, Cross-Cultural Issues, Empathy, Family Relationships, Father-Daughter Relationship, Father-Son Relationship, Freedom, Human Worth, Illness and the Family, Individuality, Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual/Transgender Issues, Loneliness, Love, Marital Discord, Mother-Daughter Relationship, Mother-Son Relationship, Ordinary Life, Parenthood, Patient Experience, Sexuality|
|Summary||When Gwen is twelve, her parents, suspecting her failure to show signs of normal adolescent development may be more serious than they had thought, have her tested and learn that she has Turner syndrome, a chromosomal disorder that frequently manifests in short stature, broad chest, low-set ears, amenorrhea and sterility. The diagnosis brings a new source of discord into an already somewhat dysfunctional New England family. Gwen's mother, Paulette, prefers not to talk openly about Gwen's condition, or even, for a time, to admit it is real. Her father, a scientist at MIT, is deeply interested in finding out more about it, but the clinical nature of his interest offends his wife.|
Eventually the parents divorce, each to cope with different kinds of loneliness and alienation from Gwen and her two brothers. One of those brothers, the designated achiever, is gay, but remains closeted for some years, in keeping with his mother's family culture. The other, after a somewhat rebellious youth, marries a girl from blue-collar California, takes a teaching job, and eventually finds himself identifying with his son who receives a diagnosis of ADD not available during Scott's own youth. The novel follows the individual stories of the five family members, each of whom carries his or her own burden of suffering, and brings them together during an unusual holiday gathering at the end, not for magical closure, but for a remarkable moment of retrospective understanding and opportunity for each to do some self-assessment and self-disclosure.
At the heart of the story is Gwen's "condition," recognized by all of them as the sadness that lies at the core of their family's chronic discomforts with one another. Gwen herself finds her way into an authentic love relationship in her mid-thirties with a Caribbean diving guide she meets on a chartered excursion. Though her mother is horrified and suspicious, and the rest of her family bemused, the experience of authentic love and friendship liberates Gwen from a history of self-defeating presumptions about her own limitations.
|Commentary||Haigh sets herself an ambitious agenda in telling the separate stories of five adults both in relationship to each other as family members and in relationship to the partners and children who become their families in adulthood. She handles it deftly and convincingly, making it possible for readers to sympathize with each of them in turn, through conflicts that divide them, sometimes bitterly, and situations that reveal each person's weaknesses and limitations. It is a novel that offers hope without any false optimism about people's ability to change. It is realistic about the ways illness, class difference, homosexuality, and fear can divide even people who love each other, and what may be the costs of reconciliation. Well worth reading for the way it invites readers to reflect on the complex challenges of living intimately with others' suffering.|
|Place Published||New York|
|Annotated by||McEntyre, Marilyn Chandler|
|Date of Entry||10/31/09|